Today No 2 had an audition.
This Spring, after clearly detailing how he did NOT want to go to the Cork School of Music next year, I surreptitiously filled out the application form for a musicianship course with an emphasis on wind instruments. I was filled with hope that this motivated little man would take to music if an instrument was placed in his hands.
No 1 bailed out on music a few years ago having ambled along indifferently in a purely academic programme. Logically I understood that music is difficult enough when you are interested and talented. To be disinterested and struggling was madness. Logically, why would you put a child through a weekly lesson and daily practice that would dash self-esteem? However, I am ashamed to say that I still felt disappointed. For me, a music education seems intrinsic to a childhood so I struggled to separate my dreams from the reality of of No1's limitations in this field.
Last week a letter from the Cork School of Music (CSM) lay waiting on the floor of the hallway on arrival home. I was at first fearful of the contents. The envelope revealed an invitation to audition. The to-do list included singing 2 songs, clapping to a rhythm and repeating notes played or sung to him. Now I was scared. God. The poor fellow. To say his singing ear is still developing is kind. The reality is more that he is tone deaf. I had been hoping that learning an instrument where you press prescribed notes would help bypass a need to sing or have a musical ear.
I was in a pit of depression that week to start with and now the potential disappointment of No2 ending his musical education before it even started had a crushing effect on me. God! I was so disappointed. Why could they not just let him have a go at the class for a year? He is a motivated little person who just might become proficient in the right teacher's hands. I know that he cannot sing but surely a six year old cannot be written off before he even has a chance? The most interesting feeling I had was my own feeling of failure. I do not understand it. But a failure as a mother is what I felt. Oh! what I would give to hear a c hild of mine play an instrument to themselves or to a family audience.
On further examination, I realised that I had written him off myself in deciding not to send him to the audition. What was the point, I thought. He will be humiliated. My sister disagreed. She encouraged me to prepare him for the audition and send him anyway. Who knows what might happen?
So, every day we practiced. In the kitchen, in the car, at bed-time. No2 thrived on the attention. He actually started to remind me of our times to practice. And what do you know? ..... he started to improve. His accuracy at hitting the notes moved upwards to about 80%. His rhythm was very good.
My brother-in-law minded the other two children while I took No2 into the CSM. The little Treasure reveled in the time we had to ourselves. He skipped along beside me with glee towards the school and was quite amazed to see his name posted on a notice board announcing his audition time. Outside the room, familiar faces from his own primary school waited also. Conversation revealed that tone deafness was more common than I had realised. Hope sprung.
When he emerged proudly from the audition, I could see the teachers grinning. No2 is quite the entertainer. Once again, skipping along the pavement, he revealed that he sang his song (I'll never know how that went) but I could not ascertain what else was required of him except that he volunteered to whistle for them. Whistle!!?? "Can you whistle?," I enquired. He demonstrated a non-whistle for me and added that when they asked him what instrument he wanted to learn, he pronounced that he wanted to learn the piano. He knew that he should have said the clarinet at a Windwise audition but no, he told them HE wanted to learn the piano.
What will be in the next envelope, when it drops through the door the next time, maybe not what I want to see. However, the feelings I had driving home in the car were full of warmth and love and pride and joy in this precious child. Whatever the outcome, I will accept it.
Watch this space.